Before fucking a horny ass, it’s important to make sure it’s relaxed and well prepped. You can’t always just shove a cock or a dildo up an ass. Start gently with fingers, tongue or a butt plug. It’s impossible to control the sphincter (the outer ring muscle), and it often tightens slightly when something is pushed into the anus. Try pushing a finger against the hole until you feel the muscle relaxing. Because the anus has no natural lubrication, this is a good opportunity to lube it up good and proper with a water or silicon-based lubricant. Remember to communicate with your sex partner. This doesn’t mean you have to talk your way through every single stage of the process, but be sensitive to sounds and signals that what you’re doing is a turn-on or a turn-off. Some people prefer soft, slow sex while others get off on fucking hard and deep. The important thing is you’re both on the same page and enjoy having a good fuck.

A lot of people enjoy having their ass filled up with a hot cock or dildo. It’s up to you how you want to be fucked. You or the person you’re fucking might like to be given a seeing-to lying on your stomach, biting a pillow, or the receiver might prefer to take command and give the cock or dildo a good riding. Listen to your body; ass fucking shouldn’t hurt. If you’re receiving, avoid drug or alcohol intoxication. This can impair your ability to tell if something’s wrong and therefore increase the risk of damage. The same applies to anesthetizing creams and lubricants.

Different positions produce different effects and different kinds of pleasure, and there are all sorts to choose from. Choose your position according to what you want to achieve. If you’re the giver and like fucking long and hard, it’s probably best to choose a position that allows you to use the force you want without tiring too quickly. It’s often impossible to keep advanced, good-looking positions up for more than a few minutes. If one of you is a first-timer or a beginner, it may be worth letting that person’s needs come first. Feel your way. Sideways screwing might be the easiest approach. Or try lying on your back with a pillow under your butt, doggy style, face to face…

The sex might be easier and more enjoyable if the rectum is empty. You could simply go to the toilet before sex, but you can also flush the rectum out beforehand. However, if you do this too often it can affect the bacteria balance and increase the risk of transmitting HIV and STIs. For this reason, it’s particularly important to use a condom and plenty of lubrication if the rectum has been flushed. It’s not the end of the world if there’s a little bit of pooh up there.

If you want to flush, be careful if doing so directly from a tap or shower hose, as it’s hard to keep an eye on how much water the body is carrying. Instead, ideally use a small container where you can decide the amount of water yourself. Also watch out for sharp edges, as the inside of the ass is very sensitive. Flushing the rectum increases the risk of passing on HIV and STIs, so always use a condom and lubrication!

Using a condom for penetration sex is one way of showing consideration, and it’s also the safest way of preventing HIV transmission. Make sure you have condoms and lubricant handy so you don’t have to get out of bed or the shower when things get steamy. We recommend using a condom even if two or more people with HIV are fucking, as re-infection can complicate medication. Also, there are other sexual transferred infections than HIV.

One size fits all? Not really. Cocks and condoms come in all shapes and sizes, and a condom that fits enhances the pleasure. Find a condom that fits your favorite dick. There’s often only a limited choice in regular stores, so check online or in specialist stores if you need a smaller or larger condom.

Cocks, pussies, asses, hands, mouths and sex toys can all pass on sexually transmitted infections. Condoms provide effective protection against most STIs, whether you’re using a real or a synthetic dick. Get tested regularly, STIs don’t always show symptoms. It’s important to tell the doctor or nurse how you’ve been having sex as it affects the testing process. STIs can occur in the mouth, on the cock, or in the ass or pussy.